The NSW Coroner’s Court has created a booklet which may assist you in coping with grief after a suicide. It is an excellent resource. This is an extract from the introduction.
Someone you love has chosen to end their life and you are left to deal with the consequences: the pain of unbearable sadness; dismay and confusion; empty feelings of abandonment; anger; guilt; and the relentless persistence of unanswerable questions.You may have to bear the additional burden of trauma if you were the person to find your relative, friend or colleague after their death, or have witnessed the death occurring.You may be left with persistent memories of images, smells or sounds that make it difficult to concentrate on anything else, and make you long to remember the person who died, to remember them as they were.
At a time when you may be feeling as helpless as a child and vulnerable (the word ‘regressed’ describes these feelings) you are likely to be faced with necessary but unwelcome intrusions from the police and coronial system. For some, there may be resented, ‘in your face’ experiences with the media. How do you cope on a minute to minute, hour to hour basis, let alone for the rest of your life? What hope is there of ever leading a ‘normal’ life again? You may feel, in fact, what hope is there at all?